Thursday, January 7, 2010

Love languages?

Have you ever read the book "The 5 Love Languages"? I actually haven't, but everyone I know and their aunt has. And I've heard it talked about for many years. It frustrated me, though, because I wondered what my love language was, and had no idea. My brother, clearly, is a gift giver. My mom is acts of kindness. My other brother is def words of encouragement. But I never really knew what MINE was. For many years I thought it was physical touch, but that never really sat well with me. I am a very tactile learner, I need to do it to learn it. I also am a hands-on teacher, I show better than i describe. But thats not a love language. I also love hugs and I like sitting on laps (moms, dads, friends parents, etc). But I didn't really think my love language was physical touch.

Then, just this week, I realized what it was. I have this one really good friend whom I hadn't seen or spent much time with in the past year or so, in spite of the fact that we live in the same town, due to crazy schedules. Just a few days ago, he came out and met me as I was getting off work. In the bitter wind, all we really took time for was a "hi!" and a quick chat, but I walked away from that feeling so blessed! I was really touched by the fact that he took a twenty min drive, for no other reason than just to see me after work (and to go to blockbuster, apparently, but that doesn't bother me haha).

So, I'm fairly certain that my love language is quality time :)

Have you figured out your love language? What is it?


  1. I'm familiar with the book, although I haven't read it yet. I am reading The 5 love languages of God.(written by the same man) I'm really enjoying it! It's talking about how God speaks all 5 love languages and how people feel most loved by and connected to God...

    I'm like you, I just recently figured out my love language. It's Quality Time... with physical touch coming in a very close second.

    Hope you're doing well!
    God Bless

  2. Giving, with a minor in acts of kindness. Which is however different from how I receive love which would be making me feel more important than others, not necessarily all over but feel like there is at least one trait that is irreplaceable. The other being through touch. The special one is a little harder to find these days, with everyone being told no one is more important than anyone else etc.